The Spinster's Exploits

I’d like to start with a mini-rant and registering my objection to the term foreplay! I think all that fabulous stuff one can do is sex play and lovemaking in itself rather than a lead to something else.

And so as one of the fabulous things you can do is spank or be spanked, then I see it as sex play and love making regardless of what follows.

It should be noted that not everybody who indulges in spanking, see as sexual but I do. And the reason I see it as sexual is because I find it sexually arousing and it forms the basis of my erotic fantasies.

When I was a fantasist with no experience, I did think spanking would be a form of foreplay/sexplay that would lead to genital-centred stuff. It is and does. What surprised me was how satisfying spanking is in itself. Ideally it is part of lovemaking, but I have found that for me it is also a complete act in itself. While an orgasm is the icing on the cake it’s not actually necessary. Like a passionate snogging session and the air filled with desire and promise can be strangely satisfying without scratching the proverbial itch – so can spanking be if it happens to light your personal fire.

I have had fabulously erotic times when there’s not been the opportunity for more formal sexual activity. but I found spanking a more than adequate alternative.

The issue of ‘does spanking lead to sex’ arose often on the spanking site I used to frequent. I once raised issue of sex leading to spanking! If one finds spanking central to one’s sexuality than the ‘flip’ can be in either direction. Erotic stimulation arouses spanking thoughts and spanking arouses thoughts of direct erotic stimulation.