Ok – so my gorgeous lover and I are “polyamorous friends with benefits who are sort of dating” and we’re very happy with that. And we both like being honest, but both like our privacy. In the past I have patiently explained to a Social Worker that the lovely man in my life at the time was not my partner but my FwB. But somehow despite the nods he was labelled as my partner anyway. And in the past I have caused a frisson in my social circles by declaring my lovely companions as FwBs rather than partners or [cringe] boyfriends. And – let’s face it – lover sounds fabulous, but somewhat dramatic – especially at 70!
So today in my Welsh chat group my fabulous polyamorous friend…(etc) was off partying elsewhere and “explained” to a newcomer to the group by the group leader as “fy mhartner/my partner” I was all ready to put them right – although pretty sure I can’t do that in Welsh(!) – when I thought – is this how I want to present myself to a new person who’s only here to improve her Welsh skills? Honesty, openness, labels, privacy and boundaries are complex…
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