The Spinster's Exploits

Well – was about to blog about my recent experiences, when I noticed an entry on my birthday calendar. It is just over a year since the anniversary of first contact with the ex who was pivotal to my kink journey – and of his son’s birthday! I tend to remember the dates of our first meeting and further firsts we shared but for him first contact remained pivotal – and the birthday probably helped to cement the date!

So, 23 years ago I was in a loving but sexless monogamous relationship, recovering my mental health and energy, writing spanking fiction and looking for a safe outlet for my spanky creative attempts and returning libido. I did actually advertise on the spanking site where we met, but he messaged me before seeing my ad. My ad is super-cringey to me now, but an absolute reflection of who and where I was at the time:

“Naughty Lady/Spanking for Softies: All Talk

Hello!

I’m new to site and looking for some fun exchanges of the cyber kind.

I am a large curvy forty-something female, happily tied and living in Wales.

I’m not looking to meet or confuse r/l with fantasy, but I’ve been fantasising about being spanked for as long as I can remember. I’ve enjoyed browsing and think chatting would be even more fun. The chat rooms seem fast and confusing. I’m quite bright but a bit slow and can’t text so leisurely chats are more my style.

My fantasies are mild, but I’m good on detail. Being put over a man’s knee (lover or justifiably irate potential lover preferably) is my favourite scenario. I’m very influenced by 50’s movies and imagery. Being bent over a suitable piece of furniture is also very erotic. I’m all for tradition and a hand on my bottom is my favourite idea but I thrill at the thought of hairbrush, slipper or dap. I’m intrigued by American paddles and rattan carpet beaters but can’t take wooden spoons seriously. I go weak at the knees with apprehension and uncertainty at the thought of a swishy cane, firm yardstick or whippy plastic ruler… I did say I was a softy…

I like clothing to be there for appropriate rearranging and uncovering… Nudity seems a bit boring. I’m not into humiliation other than actual spanking and appropriate lecture on behaviour and fate.

I would find male spanker correspondents a sexy thrill – Sort of X-rated flirting.

I’m also interested in finding women who understand where I’m coming from and would enjoy similar fantasies or reality on these lines. I’ve been busy putting these ideas into writing and wonder if there is a market for my particular tastes.

Not sure of netiquette. It would be lovely if people responded here (joined thread?) or sent me messages.”

And now at 71, I remember him with affection and thanks and consider my more recent journeys. I am now a happy polyamorist in a lovely sort-of-dating sort-of-relationship with a fabulous foot-loose, sort-of-switchy-sub-identifying friend, playmate and lover – what a journey. And so lovely to have arrived here, although it has been a bit of a mystery tour!

And I get to my computer and discover this will be my 100^th blog entry – so happy 100^th to me – sort of!

And I will get around to recent stuff – especially as it features my fabulous F-L,S-o-S-S-etc celebrating a year of our fun!