The Spinster's Exploits

So – I no longer have my fabulous sub-identifying Friend with Benefits I was sort of dating; but the force through the green fuse” that “drives the flower” is still pulsing away.

I asked my subby cross-dressing Spiritual Elf about bondage just out of curiosity as he is such a “busy” character, but is very calm when giving me foot massages. He liked the idea, and I found myself responding to the idea of binding him to the bed. Nice to be nudged by the wild goat…

I have had a message from the coffeeshop man, but despite telling him of availability and his apparent interest, I didn’t hear from him. I’ve decided to give up on him, but leave a door ajar.

I once had a very young man match ridiculously highly with me on an old-style dating app. We met and liked each other, but I’d then just get odd messages which I suspect were driven by boredom or alcohol and he made no effort to actually meet again. And then he did – most likely out of curiosity or boredom. I decided it was worth a meet just for the hell of it – I even gave up a tai chi session to see him.

He was an exceptionally tall young man in his twenties, and we’d literally talked for hours about life, the universe and films on our one and only public meeting. He introduced me to idea of Korean films way before they had become mainstream. I decided that if it turned to be a one-off that would be fine. I’m not generally into hook ups/one-night-stands, but had some rewarding ones in my late twenties, so why not?

I had a lovely time with him, and I may do so with my possibly tea-making, massage-promising young coffeeshop man if he were to get in touch…

My 50-something chaotic time-poor slightly kinky widower is pencilled in for the coming weekend, and my subby cross-dressing Spiritual Elf is also hoping to be free for the weekend. So, like the days of internet dating, it may be feast and famine without my regular fixes of a more regular FwB…

All quiet on the kink site, since I saw off a potential FwB in the other coffeeshop. I have however heard from a Dom who used to have his own playroom! He seems to be making a reverse journey to mine and got switchy, but all has gone quiet there. An experienced Dom switch may be interesting, though – perhaps I should suggest a meet for a chat…

I’m very aware that while not easy for women, this polyamory lark is easier for us females than it is for men. There are of course a lot of “frogs” we don’t get to kiss, or choose not to – but we seem more able to meet potential FWBs/lovers. I have had two lovely polyamorist men in my life, who were very relieved to have found someone – me! – while their female partners seemed to be doing fine. I am now aware of a site for swingers/polyamorists which seems to work for its users, but not tried myself. Members of said site were at the quite kinky party I attended, as well as folk from the kink site.